think of the reason why you held so long;

  DO OR DIE is an old saying;

  But DO IT BEFORE YOU DIE is the latest one.”

I got this sms last week; my ex-pression was…”hmmm…good one.”But gradually when I thought on it, I felt depth in this quote.

DO OR DIE    AND     DO IT BEFORE YOU DIE 

Both the above quotes asking for Effort, asking for dedication,   asking for commitment, asking to do what you want to do, asking to give your 100%…

The only difference, what I felt is (in relationship…as my blog is mainly on relationship)…

DO OR DIE is…..somewhere asking for adjustments, expecting extremity.

Whereas, DO IT BEFORE  YOU DIE….is asking us to fulfill the inner desire, asking to do what we wish to do…..without confusing DUTY and DESIRE….

We all know that each and every individual has its own body language. We do judge each other by the same…now as world is techno-savvy; it has taken one step ahead… where body language is transformed into text-a-language, sms-language and phone-a-language! We now judge each other more by the way we text and talk.

When we go for a party where many people are invited, do we gel with all? We with our vibes, our intuition and each other’s body language, choose to talk to few…who makes us feel comfortable, right? As body language plays an important role in our life…there s something which weighs more in our relationship.

And that is…………………… our LOVE LANGUAGE!!!

We all love to be loved by our loved ones…but sometimes relation reaches to that point where gradually we feel something is going wrong. Suddenly, the bitterness, the ignorance and avoidance takes place.

Yes. We do love each other but that bond is not that strong which it was used to…Somewhere we get confused and ignorant…to this basic need of life….LOVE!!!

Very few of us can talk about our love language to our partner…and…When we talk…it’s mostly in the presence of our well-wishers (counsellors, friends…that also if we are lucky and give time and understanding to our relationship!).

So what are LOVE LANGUAGES?

Love languages are:

1) Word Of Affirmation: “The tongue has the power of life and death.”

2) Quality Time: “Giving someone your undivided attention – keeping no difference between

                           the dating couple and married couple.”

3) Receiving Gifts: ” The worth of gift has NOTHING to do with monetary value AND

                               EVERYTHING to do with love.”

4) Act Of Service: “Request gives direction to love but demand stops the flow of love.”

5) Physical Touch: “All the ‘LOVE TOUCHES’ are the emotional lifeline.”

I was gifted a book by my friend “The Five Love Languages” written by Gary Chapman. Personally I felt that everyone should read this book, especially married couples. Not because all have some or the other problems but to make married life more sparkling!

I request all, to read, to think, to apply…in all your relations…

It’s never too late…………if both the partner decide to make it and not break it……..

MAY GOD BLESS US ALL!

” You can play piano by yourself,
  but it becomes MUSIC,
  when someone hears it!”      Cyrus Merchant

We are living in the the world which is demanding and competitive! And so it is very difficult to get the time to listen, to talk to each other even if we want to. We are pre-occupied with our selves.
I am a working parent. It happened with me last week and I would like to share the same.
My son is in Std.X. We dont get much time to interact as we used to get earlier when we were having the same timings. Now we both are in the different shifts. We get very little time to spend with each other.And in those hours when we are together, we both have our own set of work.

Before we go to sleep we talk little. That day he was about to share something and I got a call…I looked at him, he smiled with a look that “Oh! Now I cannot talk to mom!”…I tried to finish my call at earliest but he was fast asleep.

I felt very bad and also sad. But I console myself that I can make it in the morning. I did.
He replied,” Ma, I don’t know what I wanted to tell you yesterday night, I forgot.” I just left with the feeling of regret!

We are busy, they are busy…No time…No patience…
All of us do ask them and talk to them…have you reached home? Had your food? Did your home work? Did you attend your coaching?
We also make sure that they don’t watch much of T.V, or play out more [and we feel that they share everything with us].

ADDING to that can we also ask…how are your friends doing? What type of mischief is happening in the school? Don’t you feel like bunking so and so class sometimes? Isn’t it your so and so friend is very smart?
AND also sharing what we used to think and did in our school days (of course in a limit…as they are more smart than us!!!)

Yes, there are children who does not share even if the parent try hard…BUT please do not stop playing your part…

Because we can foresee their friends, their thought process (where it is going) and guide them ANYTIME better than their peer group.

It’s like your routine- – -brushing your teeth , eating , sleeping…we must make it a point to share or rather a habit.
This is possible ONLY when we are permanent residents in our children’s lives and not just visitors!

If we decide that we will definitely make up some beautiful moments everyday, WE CAN.

I am sure we can stop having more Adnanas and Arushis (we don’t know the facts) as they do not deserve such END!!!